Talking to Myself

When people ask me how I put my Fibro into remission six years ago, I give them the usual list of things I changed. These things include radical dietary changes, taking up yoga and getting regular acupuncture treatments. The last piece of the puzzle for me was developing positive self-talk.

People tend to have busy minds. We talk to ourselves constantly. And while this talking goes on as a backdrop to our days, we are not usually aware of the content or frequency of the messaging. We can, however, not only make ourselves more aware, but we can have some influence over the messaging as well.

First, this is not a call to THINK POSITIVE! I’m not a cheerleader. This is a suggestion that we underutilize a tool that is already in operation, and that is our conscious thought process. When we experience something as painful, dangerous or difficult, we formulate cognitive messages about it. I remember the moment I realized I could change this, and that is the day I ended my last Fibro flare.

I was sitting in a café with a friend, talking about a relationship issue I was struggling with. I could feel the pain seeping into my arms and legs as I was thinking about it. All of a sudden, I realized that I was actually thinking myself into a flare! Why would I do such a thing! I started at that moment telling myself a different story. In this new story, I could feel sadness and grief, and NOT translate that into physical pain. I could feel it and let it go. This was a game-changer for me.

Our minds are powerful. The truth is, we can’t even begin to imagine how powerful. I can’t tell you that I know how your mind works, but I can encourage you to spend some time figuring that out. It will be worth your while.

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